How Long Is Too Long?
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Let’s be honest with each other for a second.
We all have moments that broke us.
Words that left scars.
Situations that embarrassed us, changed us, or humbled the hell out of us.
But the real question — the one we avoid — is this:
How long are you going to keep letting it control you?
The truth is, we hold on to pain way longer than we should.
Not because we want to…
but because we don’t know who we’d be without it.
Pain becomes familiar.
Regret becomes routine.
Self-blame becomes safe.
But familiar doesn’t mean healthy.
Safe doesn’t mean healing.
And at some point, we all have to face the question:
How long?
How long will we keep replaying the same heartbreak like it’s our favorite movie?
How long will we keep dragging old memories into new seasons?
How long will we keep believing the worst version of ourselves instead of choosing to grow into a better one?
Every “how long” you ask yourself is really an invitation:
How long will I avoid healing?
How long will I fear becoming the person I know I’m capable of being?
How long will I dim my light to make my pain feel relevant?
How long will I let shame keep me silent?
How long will I be everything for everyone while giving nothing to myself?
Healing isn’t about pretending it didn’t hurt.
It’s about refusing to let what hurt you keep running your life.
The moment you say,
“I don’t want to carry this anymore,”
you shift from surviving to becoming.
Healing is choosing evolution over repetition.
Healing is saying:
I’m done fighting battles that aren’t mine.
I’m done shrinking to make other people comfortable.
I’m done abandoning myself to prove loyalty to people who don’t love me deeply.
I’m done letting fear sit in the front seat of my life.
And here’s the thing people forget:
You don’t heal all at once.
You heal one choice at a time.
One boundary at a time.
One moment of courage at a time.
One “I deserve better” at a time.
So really ask yourself:
How long will you let the past hold the pen…
when the next chapter is waiting on YOU to write it?